Category: Essay Series
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And Then What?
This is a continuation of “Find the Meaning First”. If you’re landing here first, that’s the piece to read before this one. “Man cannot stand a meaningless life.” – Carl Jung I recently wrote a post about three of Jung’s quotes, including this one, and shared it with the UnderGround, a group that I am…
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Can We Grieve the Version That Saved Us?
This is a continuation of “Can We Let Go of Who Used to Lead Us”. If you’re landing here first, that’s the piece to read before this one. For most of our lives, one version of us ran the show. The guarded one, the one who stayed in control, the one who never needed anyone.…
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Find the Meaning First
I originally wrote this for a fitness accountability group that I am a member of, the Underground, but the idea underneath it isn’t really about fitness. It’s about why we start anything, and why we sometimes stop. I think it applies just as much to a career change, a relationship, a creative project, or anything…
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Can We Let Go of Who Used to Lead Us?
This continues something I started in “Understanding Why We Became Who We Became in the First Place”. If you haven’t read that one, it’s worth starting there first. We know where we came from, and we know why we became who we became. We understand the patterns now, where they started, what they protected us…
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Understanding Why We Became Who We Became in the First Place
This picks up a thread that started a while back with a three-part series on happiness and change. If you haven’t read “The Destination” yet, that’s where this one continues from. Most of us spend years trying to change who we are without ever stopping to understand how we became that person in the first…
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Trilogy Part 3 – The Destination
This is what waits on the other side. For most of our lives we think the destination is a place. A number in the bank account, the house, the body, the relationship, the title, the moment everything finally comes together and we feel complete. We spend years chasing that moment, believing that one day we’re…
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Trilogy Part 2 – The Other Side of Uncomfortable
We’ve all been there, convinced this is just who we are, and that change is somehow beyond our control. It’s one of the quietest lies we ever tell ourselves and one of the most convincing. Because it doesn’t sound like a lie. It sounds like self-awareness, like acceptance, like the reasonable thing to do. But…
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Trilogy Part 1 – Are You Happy?
That’s the number one question every single one of us is walking around with quietly, are you actually happy? But before we even get there, we have to ask a harder question. Whose version of happy are we actually chasing? Most of us never stopped to define it for ourselves. Society handed us the blueprint…
