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No Self, No Problem
“No self, no problem.” — Commonly attributed to Buddhist teaching How many of the things we choose to carry around every day are actually problems, and how many only become problems because we take them personally? I was at a friend’s house for dinner recently, along with a few other couples. Everyone was complimenting the…
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The Whisper Test
Every morning, the moment we open our eyes and before we’ve even gotten out of bed, the negotiation starts. The covers are warm, the day hasn’t asked anything of us yet and the one thing at the top of the list, the task we’ve been putting off, is already on our minds. Then a voice…
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When Walking Away Means We Finally Learned
“I don’t walk away to teach people a lesson. I walk away because I learned mine.” – Steve Harvey, The Steve Harvey Morning Show, October 2, 2025 There’s a difference between walking away because we want someone to feel our absence and walking away because we’ve finally learned something from the experience. When we want…
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What I’m Actually Investing In
What happens when we start chasing health the way we once chased success? Somewhere along the way, being healthy became a flex. Years ago, if a 55-year-old guy walked into an upscale restaurant wearing a Rolex, some jewelry, a nice suit and pair of shoes, and then drove away in a luxury car, we pretty…
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Are We Really Listening?
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”— Stephen R. Covey Many of us think we’re good listeners but often we’re just waiting our turn. Somebody is still talking and we’re already building our response, deciding what we agree with, what we want to correct and…
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The Person Our Body Has Practiced Being
We like to think we make our decisions in the moment, but more often than we realize, that isn’t what’s happening. A lot of what we do each day happens before we’ve given it much thought at all. We wake up and reach for the phone. We walk into the kitchen at a certain time…
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As Though We Know
“Do not act as if you were going to live ten thousand years. Death hangs over you. While you live, while it is in your power, be good.”-Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 4.17 We all know we’re not going to live forever, and yet if we watched the way most of us live, you’d think we had…
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Are We Ever Really Lacking Confidence?
I was watching a video on YouTube recently of Darryl Anka, who was channeling Bashar, answering questions from the audience. Someone in the crowd said, “I used to be very confident in myself.” It’s the kind of thing a lot of us have said or thought at some point, but regardless of what anyone may…
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If There’s a Solution, Why Worry? Here’s What That Actually Means
“If a problem can be solved, what reason is there to be upset? If there is no possible solution, what use is there in being sad?” — Shantideva, A Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life That’s how Shantideva said it, but the version that I have always heard goes more like this: if there’s…
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How Momentum Really Builds
“When torrential water tosses boulders, it is because of its momentum.” — Sun Tzu, The Art of War A single drop of water isn’t moving a boulder. But put enough water behind it, moving in the same direction, and something that looks almost powerless on its own becomes capable of moving something enormously heavy. That’s…
Midlife Transformation & Personal Growth
